Seven Steps to a Perfect Night of Passion

Couples fill their lives with the beauty and warmth of romance by finding new and exciting ways to keep the fires glowing. Playing An Enchanting Evening , Fan the Flames or Romantic Sensations! can be that "peak" experience that will remind you of why you fell in love with each other. But sometimes, getting to that perfect moment takes a little planning and even a little seduction.

Taking these steps will bring closeness, warmth and intimacy to your relationship and create an air of mystery and expectation that will have your partner looking forward to playing a Time for Two game.

If possible, "take" one step each day...start on a Sunday, and end by playing An Enchanting Evening Fan the Flames or Romantic Sensations! the following Saturday night.

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Day 1. You're In Love With Your Partner - Let Them Know It.
Simply tell your partner know how much you appreciate him/her. Deliver your message – on a Post-It note, a card, letter, voice mail/answering machine, or telegram. Leave it in an unexpected place – on the bathroom mirror, in a briefcase or on a coffee cup, or on the car dashboard. Why not an underwear drawer?

Be sure to tell your partner how special they are, [your message could mention something you find attractive about them or something your partner recently did for you]. And, most importantly, suggest that he or she not make other plans for the night you are going to play the game – but do NOT tell him or her about the game! For example, "When I think about you I get chills, and I have something in mind that will give you chills, too. Please don't make any plans for this Saturday night. I'll tell you more about it later."

Day 2. Give Him/Her A Simple Gift.
A special token of your love. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it should really say something about your love for each other.

It can be a single flower or a favorite food; an original poem or a small book of poems; a tape or CD of your partner's favorite kind of music; or a ticket to one of their favorite activities. And, again, remind your partner to set aside that "special" evening.

Day 3. Give Your Partner The Gift Of Time.
Do something for your partner that they would ordinarily do themselves. For example, run an errand, do the laundry or shopping, or serve him or her breakfast in bed. When your partner asks why you're doing this, simply tell him or her that they'll find out...Saturday night.

Day 4. Enjoy the Great Outdoors, Together.
If the weather permits, suggest that a walk at sunrise with breakfast along the way would be a terrific way to start the day. Or invite your partner to go for a stroll with you after dinner.

If there's time, you might suggest doing something "active" together – going to the beach or for a walk in the woods, if that's convenient. If the weather is not cooperative, plan on something indoors together such as bowling, an indoor picnic, visiting an art museum, or working-out. DON'T do something "passive" like going to a movie.

Day 5. Make Your Home More Romantic.
Small, simple changes to your home can create a more romantic mood. Put in a dimmer switch or lower wattage light bulbs; place candles "strategically" about the house; put fresh flowers on the table and bureau; use a tablecloth or attractive place-mats in the kitchen or dining room; get a new bedspread; get rid of toys; put away all that "stuff" that's collected in your bedroom; or do anything that you and your partner feel will make your environment more romantic.

Day 6. Enjoy An Evening Together – Without Being Physically Intimate.
Suggest turning off the television for an evening! Dance to your favorite music; take turns reading a mystery, an adventure story, poetry or something erotic to each other; do a crossword or jigsaw puzzle together; play cards; or reminisce by looking through old photo albums.

Day 7. Spend an Entire Romantic, Intimate Evening Together – Playing An Enchanting Evening, Fan the Flames or Romantic Sensations!
On that special day, give your partner a note reminding him/her about the evening - you might even suggest something for your partner to wear. For example, "I think you're sexy when you wear ........ please put that on for tonight. I promise you won't regret it."

You've scheduled a date for this night in advance – now it's time to get all those things that will make it special. Make certain your favorite foods and drink are on hand, and that there will be no interruptions! The phone should be unplugged and children should be sent to a baby-sitters for the night; or go away to a "bed and breakfast" or hotel.

Turn on music, place candles around the room, and include fresh flowers. Set the game up somewhere where your partner won't see it beforehand. Allow yourselves the freedom and time to fully explore all the things that give both of you pleasure and bring you closer together.

Then ask your partner to meet you in the bedroom or living room at, say, 8pm. You might even suggest that you dress in separate rooms.

When your partner shows up at the time you've suggested...well, by this time he or she is filled with anticipation. Enjoy the food, drink, and then each other – playing a game for just the two of you!

 
One Final Note: If time and your circumstances don't permit you to take all the steps, feel free to change these suggestions. However, Steps 1, 5 and, of course, 7 are critical. But remember, this is about enjoying your partner and having fun together – so do those things that you know will work best in your relationship.